Category: Dating and Relationships
I spent hundreds of dollars on her since we got together in February. Got her a much needed cell phone even paid for 2 months of unlimited service, spent close to 60 bucks on gourmet chocolates while I was away on a family vacation, bought her Broadway Tickets to see the Lion King because I knew she really wanted to go and she has the nerve, the nerve to call me cheap! I mean, all I get is $761 a month for s s i which the majority of is spent on her. How much more does she want? What do you all think?
Huge error guys. this topic was suppose to be under my friend's user name. I was typing it out for him and copied it. We took a while to sort out his thoughts and I impulsively logged in and well here it is lol. but your opinions are still appreciated thanks.
As I female, I would have interject here. It seems that she needs a lesson in numbers.
Rebecca
I think your friends an idiot and if he blows that much on a girlfriend instead of looking out for his own needs he diserves what ever he gets.
Define cheap. Is she speaking in some monitary sense? Or some other? Perhaps there'smore to this than dollars and sense? What pre-empted her remark?
I've found that spending money you don't have, making huge sacrifices that you are having to struggle to make in the first place never ever pays off in keeping the romance alive, and I speak from experience. your partner may never know just how hard you struggled to make those sacrifices, and eventually, resentment will start to build, which poisons the relationship.
Some people do not apreciate anything. you put forth the effert to try to make others happy and you get shafted. Tell your friend to think twice about splurging again because all he will get in return is shit.
If she's calling you cheap, I would consider that incredibly shallow. Just my thoughts. Love isn't supposed to come with a price.
Agreed but I am married and my lady loves me even when I am dead ass broke with a shitty job.
That's the thing. If you start out making these huge sacrifices, buying things you really can't afford, your partner will grow used to it and expect it to continue. In other words, don't start what you know you can't keep up. If the partner is only with you for the gifts, then do yourself a favor and find another partner. I can see both sides of the coin on this one.
In other words, don't spoil her to much. Lol!
Rahter than say not to spoil her, I would say find a way to spoil her that doesn't cost hundreds of dollars. Anyone can go out and buy something, it takes ten minutes and hardly any thought. How thoughtful is that, to do something that everyone else does? do something special she isn't expecting, on a day she expects to get nothing, and make it something she can't get anywhere else but you. That will make her feel more special than a simple necklace.
Of course, I'm a guy, and I could be wrong, so some female will need to varify my statement.
No. I totally agree with you, Silver Lightning. I don't care if he spends a thousand dollars, or ten dollars. Feeling special is worth more than any monitary value.
*sings. I say she a gold digger. Smile. Seriously if she has stated this and he has given her what he feels he can then he should move on. His last gift to her should be a wallet with a note. "cuddle with this." What has she done for him? It's a wonderful thing to give and help someone, but if that person makes a statement like this she or he is only enjoying the gifts not the company.Now if a man has plenty of money, and has to buy his companions he should be picky and order one to fit. Hiegh, weight, hair color, race, if that turns him on, and any other likes he desires, he is buying company and does not have love, but he understand the bargain.
ungreatful bitchc
You never can buy love or loyalty. If you try to buy those things with money you will never be able to trust that person.
I still think she is so shallow.
Must not have spent any money herself, so is she cheap? Smile.
lol
You can only buy trust, friendship and loyalty if you have more money than anyone else. It might work for a time, but when you buy those things, they come at a high price, and when the person finds someone who can pay more, then you're yesterday's news.
You cannot keep buying people's love.
Nope, you eventually run out of money. A government check won't buy much love. LOL
Speaking as a woman who has been married 10+ years; money isn't anything. Sure, it's nice; I don't think there are many who will argue with me on that, but it don't hold you when you cry, laugh when you make an ass of yourself, comfort you when the day is going bad...And, I could go on and on. The first thing my husband bought me was two unicorns that cost him about $6, but I loved them because I collect unicorns and he took the trouble to find out what I'd like...Taking the time to know me went a lot further than buying me a $500 diamond ring ever would...I don't particularly care for diamonds.
But see, that is what gift giving is all about. It is not the gift itself but the thought behind it.
Exactly my point. :)
Hmmm, correct.
Ungreatful and a big time fucking gold digger!
Well, live and learn.
we can hope, at least.
Yup.